I’ve written about this topic before, but it keeps coming up with clients, friends, and everywhere around me.
Why is that? It takes hold of our self-confidence, our dreams, our grit. It stops us from taking risks, going after our dreams, and it leaves us feeling inadequate.
Remember, our minds can be assholes. Our minds are trying to protect us from getting hurt. Our minds are especially good at replacing facts with thoughts- thoughts that do us no good but get in our way.
So how can we rise above this sabotaging self-talk to build our own self confidence? Here are some confidence- building thoughts to remember:
You deserve to be in this role: there is a reason you were selected, and it’s so important that YOU believe it
You are not alone: almost everyone has experienced this at one point
Know your worth: you are more than your title, education, and past. Knowing your true potential helps you know your value
Don’t make perfection your goal, rather progress and acceptance
Don’t go it alone- the power of your community and network of confidants is powerful to help you see yourself differently
The ability to self-coach is one of the most effective ways to rise above imposter syndrome. Sitting in a quiet space for 20 minutes and asking yourself specific questions can help you. You will see the thoughts that are not serving you, sabotaging you, and can help you turn those thoughts into positive helpful phrases. Write them down so you can reflect. Ask yourself:
What are you making this mean?
What is the worst thing that could happen?
What are the facts of your story?
What are you creating in your life when you think this?
What would this look like if it were easy?
What am I afraid of?
Next, challenge your thoughts and create new thoughts to practice in the moment and build your confidence:
What have I achieved to prove that I belong?
What if this is all happening as it should?
What positive impact have I helped create?
How can I be an example of what’s possible?
What positive feedback have I received from people I respect?
How do you WANT to show up in this situation?
Throughout this journey, the most important thing you can do is give yourself grace and compassion. Feeling this way is normal and can be turned around. I believe in you and your success, and I hope you will too!
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